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27 Sep 2023

Ep 143 – That’s So Haven

Party, Society & Culture, Transgender

We talk with Alexander McKween about Haven, the night for trans men and their loved ones. The monthly night by and for trans guys has its regular home at UBQ on Smith street and has expanded to a new warehouse party at Rubix Warehouse.

We chat with Alex about creating spaces for trans masc folk to get expressive, party in an environment tailored to supporting them, and how events can be more inclusive and supportive. We discuss some pitfalls of dating and cruising cis men – and what it takes to not be a dickhead online and when cruising trans dudes.

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Photo for this week lovingly supplied by Alex, by sensational photographer Millie Gryphon

Follow Alex https://linktr.ee/Alexander_McKween

Find more out Haven https://linktr.ee/haven.night

Check out UBQ https://www.ubqueer.com.au

This week, after the mics turned off Alex mentioned a few other fantastic events for community – and ones he likes personally so they are!

Beers for Queers with Gay Stuff Markets

Bonez

Tomboy After Dark + we chatted to Renee who runs Tomboy a few weeks ago – you can hear that convo here

Hanky

Saddle Club (not currently active)

Unicorns run by none other than Ms Melbourne Rubber Delsi Cat who we ALSO talked with a few weeks back. And you can grab that chat here.

T4T Transgender Showcase

Dollhouse Social also run out of UBQ by Rosie Rai

AND you can see Haven mentioned in the latest edition of Demasque Magazine, run by local latex lover Star!

Great stuff by and for trans folk! 

TransHub https://www.transhub.org.au

https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/sexual-health/trans-people/trans-masculine/navigating-sex

Equinox https://equinox.org.au

Cervical Cancer Screening info for anyone with a cervix https://thorneharbour.org/news-events/news/cervical-screening-is-for-everyone-with-a-cervix/

The Shed (fka FTM Shed) support for trans guys, binding, mental health, and social events for trans masc folk

https://www.theshedsupport.org.au

Transgender Victoria https://tgv.org.au

Zoe Belle Gender Collective https://zbgc.org.au

Got an excellent trans run social, business, event, or health resource? Let us know so we can feature it here! Drops a line on socials

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