Hide and Seek

23 Mar 2016

ATTENTION! Sarge is speaking!

Interviews, Society & Culture

It takes a lot to impress the slightly middle-aged, marginally bitter ‘n twisted, founder of the show that explores all things sex, sexuality and self.  However when Dean recently caught up with the 2015 winner of International Ms. Leather – Sarge – he was BLOWN away, on all fronts other than literal.

A survivor of sexual abuse, Sarge found family and sobriety through the leather community.  Once existing as a victim of circumstance, Sarge now lives as a leader, driving change through compassionate understanding and empathetic connection.  It’s no wonder the title of 2015 International Ms. Leather is hers.

A self-described “futch” (Femme-Butch) Sarge loves blood play, energy play, foot play, and fisting, sharing her knowledge through educational workshops and mentoring wherever possible.  Nominated for Pantheon Woman of the Year and SoCal Person of the Year, she is also Ms. San Diego Leather 2014-15.

Co-founder of the House of AndOr, Sarge lives in San Diego, California and inadvertently emerged from a memorable Folsom Pride as one of the founding members of the notorious Gang Bang Girls.

As the IMsL2015 title holder, Sarge continues to enrol the global fetish community via her AMAZING mental health campaign;  “You Are Not Alone” is a mental health dog-tag that flags an invitation to anyone who wants help now.

Unlike other campaigns which rely on health’ people to identify and reach-out, this campaign invites those in need to ask for assistance.  Put simply: it is revolutionary.

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